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Daughters of madness : growing up and older with a mentally ill mother / Susan Nathiel.

By: Nathiel, Susan.
Material type: TextTextSeries: Women's psychology (Westport, Conn.): Publisher: Westport, Conn. : Praeger Publishers, 2007Description: xix, 196 p. ; 25 cm.ISBN: 0275990427 (alk. paper); 9780275990428 (alk. paper).Subject(s): Children of the mentally ill | Mothers and daughters -- Mental health | Mental illnessDDC classification: 616.89/00852
Contents:
Foreword -- Acknowledgments -- Introduction -- Mother's role in our "self" development -- The research : bonds and brains -- Early childhood -- Something's wrong with Mom -- What's real? -- Am I bad? -- When Mom is mean, or just doesn't care -- Why doesn't anybody help? -- Keeping secrets -- Making the best of things -- Middle childhood -- Mom at home -- Mom and me -- Explanations -- Who am I? -- Mom goes to the hospital -- Mom in public -- Daughters go out into the world -- Keeping family secrets -- Fathers and siblings -- Suicide threats and more -- Resilience -- Adolescence -- Mom at home -- Mom in public -- Psychiatric treatment and hospitals -- What to think? What to feel? -- Rites of passage -- Fathers and siblings -- Shame and secrets -- Psychological fallout -- Early exits -- Resilience -- Young adulthood -- Going out into the world -- Staying connected with home -- Mom in the hospital -- Beginning her own family -- Fallout and resilience.
Adulthood -- Mothers' lives, continued -- Getting along, or not -- Elderly mothers -- Mothers as grandmothers -- Hospitals and psychiatric treatment -- More fallout -- Fallout for siblings -- Reflections -- Reflections about fathers -- Afterthoughts -- Some final reflections on mothers' lives -- The best and worst of being a "daughter of madness" -- What do we need to learn? -- Appendix : short biographies of women interviewed -- Notes -- Index -- About the series editor and advisers.
Review: "June was 9 years old when she came home from school and her schizophrenic mother met her at the door, angrily demanding to know, "Who the hell are you? What are you doing in my house?" In another family, Tess repeatedly saw her mother wait outside church then scream at family friends as they emerged, accusing them of spying on and plotting to kill her. Five-year-old Tess and her 7-year-old brother would just cry, begging their mother to take them home as onlookers stared. These are just two of the stories gathered for this book as psychotherapist Nathiel conducted interviews. The children, now adults, grew up with mentally ill mothers at a time when mental illness was even more stigmatizing than it is today. They are what Nathiel calls "the daughters of madness," and their young lives were lived on shaky ground. "Telling someone that there's mental illness in your family, and watching the reaction is not for the faint-hearted," the therapist says, quoting another's research. But, she adds, "Telling them that it is your mother who is mentally ill certainly ups the ante." A veteran therapist with 35 years experience, Nathiel takes us into this traumatic world - with each of her chapters covering a major developmental period for the daughter of a mentally ill mother - and then explains how these now-adult daughters faced and coped with mental illness in their mothers." "While the stories of these daughters are central to the book, Nathiel also offers her professional insights into exactly how maternal impairment affects infants, children, and adolescents. Women, significantly more than men, are often diagnosed with serious mental illness after they become parents. So what effect does a mentally ill mother have on a growing child, teenager or adult daughter, who looks to her not only for the deepest and most abiding love, but also a sense of what the world is all about? Nathiel also makes accessible the latest research on interpersonal neurobiology, attachment, and the way a child's brain and mind develop in the contest of that relationship. Some of the major topics addressed include: feelings of guilt in the child - Is it my fault?; keeping the secret; role reversal, when child acts as parent; fear of the same fate; and building resilience and accepting help. The book offers insights from daughters of mothers who were schizophrenic, psychotic, severely depressed, paranoid, and personality-disordered."--BOOK JACKET.
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Includes bibliographical references (p. [187]-189) and index.

Foreword -- Acknowledgments -- Introduction -- 1. Mother's role in our "self" development -- The research : bonds and brains -- 2. Early childhood -- Something's wrong with Mom -- What's real? -- Am I bad? -- When Mom is mean, or just doesn't care -- Why doesn't anybody help? -- Keeping secrets -- Making the best of things -- 3. Middle childhood -- Mom at home -- Mom and me -- Explanations -- Who am I? -- Mom goes to the hospital -- Mom in public -- Daughters go out into the world -- Keeping family secrets -- Fathers and siblings -- Suicide threats and more -- Resilience -- 4. Adolescence -- Mom at home -- Mom in public -- Psychiatric treatment and hospitals -- What to think? What to feel? -- Rites of passage -- Fathers and siblings -- Shame and secrets -- Psychological fallout -- Early exits -- Resilience -- 5. Young adulthood -- Going out into the world -- Staying connected with home -- Mom in the hospital -- Beginning her own family -- Fallout and resilience.

6. Adulthood -- Mothers' lives, continued -- Getting along, or not -- Elderly mothers -- Mothers as grandmothers -- Hospitals and psychiatric treatment -- More fallout -- Fallout for siblings -- Reflections -- Reflections about fathers -- 7. Afterthoughts -- Some final reflections on mothers' lives -- The best and worst of being a "daughter of madness" -- 8. What do we need to learn? -- Appendix : short biographies of women interviewed -- Notes -- Index -- About the series editor and advisers.

"June was 9 years old when she came home from school and her schizophrenic mother met her at the door, angrily demanding to know, "Who the hell are you? What are you doing in my house?" In another family, Tess repeatedly saw her mother wait outside church then scream at family friends as they emerged, accusing them of spying on and plotting to kill her. Five-year-old Tess and her 7-year-old brother would just cry, begging their mother to take them home as onlookers stared. These are just two of the stories gathered for this book as psychotherapist Nathiel conducted interviews. The children, now adults, grew up with mentally ill mothers at a time when mental illness was even more stigmatizing than it is today. They are what Nathiel calls "the daughters of madness," and their young lives were lived on shaky ground. "Telling someone that there's mental illness in your family, and watching the reaction is not for the faint-hearted," the therapist says, quoting another's research. But, she adds, "Telling them that it is your mother who is mentally ill certainly ups the ante." A veteran therapist with 35 years experience, Nathiel takes us into this traumatic world - with each of her chapters covering a major developmental period for the daughter of a mentally ill mother - and then explains how these now-adult daughters faced and coped with mental illness in their mothers." "While the stories of these daughters are central to the book, Nathiel also offers her professional insights into exactly how maternal impairment affects infants, children, and adolescents. Women, significantly more than men, are often diagnosed with serious mental illness after they become parents. So what effect does a mentally ill mother have on a growing child, teenager or adult daughter, who looks to her not only for the deepest and most abiding love, but also a sense of what the world is all about? Nathiel also makes accessible the latest research on interpersonal neurobiology, attachment, and the way a child's brain and mind develop in the contest of that relationship. Some of the major topics addressed include: feelings of guilt in the child - Is it my fault?; keeping the secret; role reversal, when child acts as parent; fear of the same fate; and building resilience and accepting help. The book offers insights from daughters of mothers who were schizophrenic, psychotic, severely depressed, paranoid, and personality-disordered."--BOOK JACKET.

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<p> Susan Nathiel is a psychotherapist treating individuals, couples and families. She has been in practice for more than 30 years, and has a special interest in helping families deal with problems. Nathiel is a Founding Member of the Connecticut Guild of Psychotherapists and Founding Member of the Center for Illness in Families.</p>

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